Goran asked me that one evening when we were chatting on the phone. He’d texted me earlier, rather cheekily asking if I might be interested in a booty call. Alas, he lives an hour away from me. Even so, earlier in the week when Lars had made a similar request I hadn’t been all that keen to accommodate him. That evening I’d arranged to have dinner with Jan in town when we were also making more plans over our impending road trip around Iceland later in the summer. He had had to go home after our date and so I could have gone back with him or even over to Lars’ but I decided to go back home alone.
So it wasn’t as though I was short of opportunities for more licentious encounters; I was simply not interested. I postponed my date with the new Mr Shy in favour of an impromptu date with an old classmate passing through town. We met for a drink and it was great catching up with her. I met another new man but whilst he was interesting to chat to I didn’t feel very keen to continue dating him. Liam and I had gone to see a play together recently and I feel similarly apathetic about him.
I have come to the conclusion that there is very little sex in Amy’s life at the moment and she doesn’t seem too unhappy for that. When Goran asked me what I was working on now that the dating novella has been written, I quipped that the current project is called Life after Sex. It is a new phase and whilst I now tend to believe that sexual infidelity has been given too much weight, my own instincts is still playing catch up. I ask him about his previous sexual partners and want to know whether he is sleeping with anyone else. He’s the man of the moment because he is not looking for a commitment from me and seems committed to courting only me as his previous dating attempts had not ended too happily. Is it possible to date one or two men who themselves don’t care to sleep with anyone other than me and yet be sufficiently open-minded about the fact that I might have sex with anyone who might take my fancy … would I feel similarly about their promiscuity should it occur?